Hugs

I do not know why, everytime I felt sad or happy, I always want to hug someone. Later, I found out that hug can help to release the stress. Unfortunately, I am unable to perform hugging as many as I want it to. Why?


First of all, helloooo! I am 37 years old. Everytime I hug my dad, he probably just look at me in bewilderment as if he want to say like am I not too old for this?
Sometimes I want to hug my friends whenever I was happy or sad. But several of them just do not like being hug so I hold back in this hugging business.


Plus, Asian people is not very good in expressing their feeling. I hardly seen my friends hugging each other whenever there was good news or even bad news. They probably only give each other pat on the back or a quick hug. My mom is probably one of this kind of person. She hugged me a lot when I was still a kid. But, as soon as I entered the University she always rejected my hug. Sometimes, I feel so sad. She always said to me that I should not behave like a ten years old kid. But, the worst part when she said that if I like to hug so much then how come I did not try to find myself a good husband. I was taken aback at that time, si I withdrew myself from her and I hardly hug her anymore. Mostly right now, I hug my teddy bear and end up coughing because it has been long time since I send my doll to the laundry house.


I still need someone that I can hold to and to be hold. It does not have to be a man, does it? A friend will do. Just hug each other and do not have to say a word to one another. I will get better from my stress. I just know that. The problem is, I do not know to whom I can give my biggest hug to… Maybe I should get another big teddy bear to hug and to hold and probably to be punched...

Dear John


To be honest, I love 3/4 of this movie. Is about a long distance relationship of John Tyree (Channing Tatum) and Savannah Curtis (Amanda Seyfriend). Being a soldier, John has to go abroad to several foreign countries. Leaving Savannah in US, pursuing her study. They write to each other as their tools to communicate. Now how romantic is that? The story also about the relationship between John and his quiet Dad, which were suspected by Savannah having autism. I still able to enjoy the movie even when Savannah write John that their relationship is over...

But when I learn the real reason why Savannah broke up with John, I suddenly lost interest ....
I did not find the relationship between John and Savannah touching as I found no conflict between them. None of them seems having a bad behavior. Savannah seems like an angel fall from heaven. And John really, really the type that woman like. Smart, protective, gentle... that sort of ....

The only touching moment for me is the relationship between John and his father. Especially when he read his letter to his dad who is lying in the bed in the hospital... That is the only moment I really cried... It was so sad to not be able to express the love that you have.... either to your family or your friends...

Anyway, this is just my opinion... as many people loves this movie... Again, romantic movie perhaps just not my thing...

how inconsiderate of you


We all can not be the same person. Each of us has our own personality. Whether it will be annoyed to others…, that another story.

But, what is the right way to handle your own annoying friend? Your friend, who already knew you perfectly well that:
1. you despise waiting for more than half an hour
2. you hate to get a cancellation on a gathering in about 3 seconds before the due time
3. You hate being a second priority, like you are meeting with your friend but instead chatting with you, she or he busy talking with someone else.
4. People who never understand which things that need to be taken seriously or not.

Examples for the above:
I have this friend who always late on about everything. She is late when she was supposed to show up on our gathering. Or in another time when I came to her flat, she was still not ready and I end up sleeping on her couch because I have to wait for her to take a bath and get dressed. And she do that again and again. Later, I found out that all her old friends are like that. When they promised to meet each other at five, usually all of them finally meet up around eight. Or like this someone that I knew in the office. While all her team was ready to get back to the office from their meeting at this hotel, she without hesitation… take a spa and let the others wait for her for 1 hour!

2. Okay, let’s meet up at Metro around 2. And when I arrived there, 2 minutes to go before 2, I got a call with cheerfull voice saying that she or he (mostly is a she) will not be able to go because she has another long time no see friend coming over or she just got lazy.

3. You went to her house, as promised. To have a chat or whatever. But, suddenly her phone ring…, it’s from old time long time not heard friend… and since meeting with you is already common… she choose to have a very loooong chat with her buddy and left you stranded in her living room.

So, what to do if you have friend, like this? From my experience, getting mad or angry is such a waste of time. Because it will do no good to both of you. This kind of person, practically did not understand that they did something wrong. It is beyond their imagination, that their act has driven other people mad. Probably, they will say to you like, with their innocence voice: Oh, did I make anyone else angry? I am sorry then… if they are angry…

Please note, that this people apologizing, simply because you are mad and not because she knew her doing is wrong.

Then what to do? Simple, really. For once, forget that you are you. Act as if you are them. Since, they do not think that make you waiting forever is annoying… then it would not be a problem if you just ditch them, right? If they asked you in bewilderment (not angry, just confuse)… Just said innocently that you thought they could not make it because you have already waited for them for more than 20 minutes. And, please do not expect them to changed after you did that. They will not. And so, you just have to do that every time they are late.

And if they like to cancel in the very last minutes… well, you are the foolish one. Do not take it too seriously every time you make an appointment. You have to make another appointment and use the appointment with them as a back up plan. So, if this back up plan can not be done… well, it is only a back up plan anyway…? Why Bother?

You got neglected? Oh, do not be such a baby. Call your other friend as well… and do not think too much about how much that call will cost you… Just having fun and talk as long as you can. If possible, talk longer than they are… So, you will be busy to even think that you are being ignored.

Or….if you really so fed up with it….just get a new friend…
hehehhehee

Animals and us


Why we have to give a damn about animal rather than human? I was once asked that by someone.
Hmmm, I actually could answered back, why we have to give a damn about human either? Why made us human so special, and above all creatures that God has created in this world.


Is it because we can think? Is it because we suppose to have moral? Is it because we know what is right and wrong?
If we are all that, then why there are so many people living in poverty? Why human can be a predator other human, worst than animal? Animals hunt to feed themselves. When they have enough, they will stop. And wait until they are hungry or in need, then they will hunt and kill again. Animals kill to protect themselves too. Why those elephants and tigers attacking people? Because people starting to enter the forest to build home. These animals feel threaten. Of course, they will loose one way or the other.


People kill others, not only by really kill them in the real meaning of the words, but kill others by taking their jobs, their home, take advantages from others.


Why can we kill animals for us to eat? Well, let us consider this. There are 100 tigers in the whole wide world. If you kill them everyday, say one for a day, it will only take about 3 months to finish the entire tigers population. And they have not got the chance to breed and have the new generation. After tigers, then what will be next? Lions? Cheetah? Within years, all animals in the whole wide world will be gone entirely. If there are species that still exist, it is only because they are existed in the farms ready to be sell and to be chopped and turn into food. And then resources from mother natures. Like trees, oil, gold, diamond, human can not wait to wipe them all from this earth. They are ready to kill another human being to get what they want. They do not care, if in the matter of years, this exploitation will finish what is left on this earth. Who cares?


Why can we use animals for drug and other chemical testing? Well, okay. Animals are not in the same position with human. They do not have the right in the eye of the law; which does the human create. If companies use them for chemical testing, it will not break the law. No families will look for these creatures. Even if the animal survives the test, they cannot talk about it. But, if you already able to put on your mind that the animal are less worth it than you; then it will not take long before you will take the same on other human being. If you have seen the movie Constant Gardener, you will see it that way. Big pharmacies companies uses poor people somewhere in the Africa for testing their drugs ; to see the effect on human being. Since these people are poor, they do not existed in the eyes of human who consider themselves above all only because they have the power and the money.



Well, my point is actually, if we think that ourselves only is the highest from other creatures in this world that God has created, then sooner or later we will see other less worth than we are. We will feel free to torment them, to assault them, all for the things that we want for them for ourselves. That is the sad story of human race.

Being stupid does not means that person is an idiot...

Huh? If you are wondering, what is the difference between the above words, well to me there is...
Stupid means, unable to grasp new things quickly and need longer time absorb the lesson before finally able to applied for real.
Idiot: just plainly stupid and have no hope for what so ever...


I known two people who seems already lazy to learn something new. Oh, sure. We are all frustrated with our life. But, when your frustration started to bug your friends, well for me is really annoying.

As time goes by, we have to have an ability to see, whether this person is just slow learner. Slow learner should not be pushed around to get everything done in a second. Remember, we are all not Einstein. But, if you see there is a progress in them, it means they are willing to take the responsibility.


However, if that person, not only a slow learner, but never do anything right, always argue with everything that people taught them as if they are the right one. SIGHED. And after a few moments, you will see that there is no progress in this person. Watch it! Sooner or later, you will feel to just take the job and do it by yourself. THis is exactly what this person wants! Believe me. They always find a way to avoid new jobs, so they always act as if they do not understand and starting to irritate others. Soon, nobody will trust this person with any kind of jobs. But this person just do not care and seems happy about it.


But then that is life... Everybody has their own way to survive the boredom of their life... I am no different than they are... Only perhaps I refuse to be an idiot all the times... :)

Giving...

So here is the thing. You short of budget, so you can only made about 100 invitations from the shop. After making a list, surely you realized that you are out of stock. Would it be better to handle the situation before giving out the invitation to the-so-called-friend then asked the invitation card to be returned? Where is your ethic in friendship? I would rather receive the invitation verbally straight from the person rather than being asked to return the card. I would rather to be told that she was out of stock so she has no choice but to give the invitation verbally. In the end, she did not ask the invitation card to be returned. But, I was already offended by her rudeness. And even though I finally came to her wedding, I could not forget the thing that she was said.

When you gave out help to a person in need, was that because you really feel that you want to help? Or was it because to have this person owe you a big favor in the future? Of course sometimes, I can not blame a person who constantly reminded another person about their big debt of favor. If the help came too easy, people often take that for granted. And they just forget about it. So, I suppose you really must have a really big heart before giving out help. Not so many people care to remember the help that has been given by others nowadays. I do not like to see a person who likes to recall over and over again about the good deed or help that she or he has given to someone else. It was like you are not sincere when you give out the help. Or maybe, there is no such thing as sincerity?

But, I have to admit. Sometimes I do get annoyed when I saw someone did not appreciate the gift that I have given to. Let us say like T-shirt. I gave that thing as a gift. But soon after that, I saw that T-shirt has been given to someone else. Now, why I feel so annoyed? I meant I have given that stuff to that person, right? So, it is really up to that person whatever he or she wants to do with that gift. But, why can not we just let go the feeling of being not appreciated?

Silly? You tell me.

Chain reaction


You got scolded by your boss in the office. You think it was not fair. But you can not get back at your boss because you are afraid you will be loosing your job. So, you went home, you lashes out to anyone that you meet. The office boy, the driver, the maid or even to your own family. They got hurt and they decided to lashes out (again) to another person around them. So, the chain reaction from the negative energy is quickly spread around. And it will not stop until there is someone in the end of chain is patient enough to receive the anger and not trying to give it away to somebody else.

I suppose the same thing happen when we decide to do something good or nice to other people. Like a simple smile and morning greetings, probably could cheer someone else's day. Sometimes people ask us, wow... you seems in a very good mood today... Probably because you have spent the entire day by moaning, grumbling and pouting and snap at any person that comes to you. Well, sort of like me lately... Of course, just like the negative energy that we spread, often the positive chain reaction could stop at someone who really, really having a bad day and could not find any good reason why he or she could do something nice to other people.

So, are we going to be the negative spreader or positive spreader to this chain reaction? Hopefully we could all do something good for other people and find our own happiness that knowing by giving help could triggered other people to do the same thing.

the real thing is...

A friend of mine told me that once she saw this photo shoot at the mall... The models, a drop dead gorgeous babe with handsome hunk cuddling to each other as if they wish to share to the world that they meant to each other... But once the director screamed: CUT! both of them let go of each other that expression full of pure loving changed quickly to .... FLAT FACE... well, you know what I mean.... She said to me that they have her mistakenly think about a possibility that the two of them really like each other...

We saw that a lot... Sometimes we make our own assumption based on the things that we have seen... and we have no idea actually what is going on behind that ...But we took our assumption anyway and just act based on that assumption... And of course when we do finally find out the real thing, we either disappointed or just decided that was a mistake and let us just move on...or we let that eating us ... and we just stuck in that same place...

It's up to us to decided which road we are going to take

Deep Scar


My left knee can't be used to kneel down.... but no, no, no... not because the aging problem... hehehehhe... The truth is, I am such a clumsy person I used to fall down a lot while I was walking on the street. Seriously. My feet step on stone, I lost my balance, I fell. There was one time, I fell on the same spot... twice... So, the previous week I fell when I was walking... Obviously, the wound is still under the healing process and still not recover...Then, a week later, I fell again... hurthing the same knee, in the same still open wound that still has not healed ... You can imagine the hurt and the agony and the urge to scream out loud in pain... But I could not do that as it happenned in a public place. So, I just swallowed my pride and keep on walking with the bloody wound on my left knee. As the result, up to now, I can never ever do a kneel down position using my left knee as it is killing me (not) softly.

I guess in real life, human is like that too... If you get hurt again and again, it will leave you a big and deep scar inside that hard to be healed. Like for example, a person who always been told that he or she is totally an idiot, for the rest of his/her life... That person will think he or she deserve nothing for being so stupid and useless. Imagine to receive the insult constantly from someone who should give love and caring... It will surely leave a deep scar inside and probably will stay like that for eternity...

Hopefully, none of us have that experience. As once we have that deep scar, we will find it hard to find the cure and probably will makes us hard to move on and look for a brighter future

interesting conversation


woman: I can not believe you guys.... You seems alwayws ready to help to all the newbie in our office.... But for as long as I work here in 10 years, you all never once helped me out whenever I carrying something heavy

(aha... it seems the woman is one of many senior staff who has been working too long in one place... sort of like me... hehehehehe)

Man : You never asked (simple, short, sharp, pierce to the heart, right to the point.... typically)

Woman : WHAT!!! So, even I carried this large box in front of you, if I do not ask you will not going to help me?

Man : Yep...

Woman : But, that is ridiculous!

Man : No, is not. How can I know whether you need help or not if you do not ask...? I mean you are all so independent these days... I surely do not want to insult you by offering my assistance

Woman : Your thick brain should be able to separate when is the time I need help and when is not the time...

Man : That's you husband's duty. I am just your colleague...

Wpman : Oh, Please.... You just like that newbie do the sweet talking with you...

Man : Well, that might be true... But, honestly... as for me... since my brain is so thick... please just ask me when you need help...


HAHAHAHAHAHAHA.....

So, should we ask for help when we need it? Or we just assume people should be aware that is the time when we neeed others people to help?

Bargain

Bargain

If you asked me about several things that I could not do properly, then bargaining is one of them... Image hosted by Photobucket.com
According to my mom, I was really lousy at thisImage hosted by Photobucket.com. She reminds me about the first time I had to bargain to buy books from the street market. I knew the price of that book if I buy it from the bookstore. So, here on street market... the price should be cheaper. Or at least that was what I have thought. Then, of course I was surprise when the seller gave me the exact same price with those in the bookstore. And he was very snappishImage hosted by Photobucket.com. Maybe it was his way to terrorize meImage hosted by Photobucket.com in order for me to give in and just buy the book. Then after saw the whole things, my mom approached me and asked me about the price. When I told her, she look at the seller furiously and barked, “What! Are you mad? It is the same price with those in big comfy bookstore over there!”Image hosted by Photobucket.com and before that man yelled back at her she snap at me, “Come on! Don’t waste your breath here! I told you we better off with the book in that bookstore...” Image hosted by Photobucket.com And, after we walked a few steps... the seller yelled at us, “Mam! Wait up! What’s your bargain to this book?”And then, I did not remember anymore. It was not like bargaining between seller and buyer. But more like two people fighting for what they believe inImage hosted by Photobucket.com. After for what it seems forever, they finally agree on certain prices. I could not believe it. She got 40% less from the price at the bookstore. She sighed at me and said, “You are totally useless. You let that guy terrorizing you and you just gave up!” I could only smirked.Image hosted by Photobucket.com

Does bargain has something to do with language? My mom proved that it has nothing to do with language barrierImage hosted by Photobucket.com. We were in Singapore when she saw many beautiful scarves. She looked at them, and told me to ask the merchant how much is it. Then, what happen next... despite the language barrier... (My mom speak barely English and the merchant of course know nothing on how to speak Indonesian)... these two just went on and on about setting the correct price for each of them. Using hands and calculator..., finally they were settled to one price and both smiling broadly to each otherImage hosted by Photobucket.com. Amazing...

Then another time; my mom and I were at Pasar Baru. My eyes spotted this wristwatch that look so cool. This is my other weakness. Whenever I want something, my expression just says it allImage hosted by Photobucket.com. According to my friend, the merchant will use the opportunity to raise the price knowing that I would pay whatever it takes to have that stuff. Well, back to my story. I went to that store and I asked how much is it. The seller said it is about Rp. 600.000,- I was like...,”Um..., how about Rp. 300.000,-?” My mom looked so shocked. But I was more shocked than her when the merchant just gave in without any resistance at all. My mind was like, Image hosted by Photobucket.com! He must still gain some huge profit from the price that I offered him. So, I decided to cancel my purchase and hurriedly walking out from the store my mom. Of course, I got another lecture from her.
“That was wrong. You should bargain at less than half from the price they gave you! You see it just now? They are still having big profit if you buy at half price from what they are offer to you!”Image hosted by Photobucket.com

Yeah, yeah... But, sometimes I find myself in a very awkward situation. I felt that, everytime I mentioned a price...Image hosted by Photobucket.com the merchant gave me IF ONLY LOOKS COULD KILL-look. Terrifying, but of course that is ridiculous...Image hosted by Photobucket.com

Bargain, I suppose is sort of an art of communicationImage hosted by Photobucket.com. It is the way you know how to talk people into. How to stick with what your want, without annoyed anybody. And still get what you want. This skill, I think... it will take me a very long, loong, loooong time to mastered itImage hosted by Photobucket.com. And how about you?

strangers and families

Yesterday I watched this one episode from Desperate Housewives and one of the stories is interesting. One of the characters is worried that her son might be involved in dealing with drugs. So, she disguise herself as teens and join the community forum, you know like facebook, multiply, sort of like that... and having a chat with her son... Her husband warning her to stop the chatting as soon as they got information that their son has nothing to do with dealing drugs... But..., of course.... she could not... How could she stop...? From there, she found out that her son loves poetry and even write a poem.... Her son talk so many things... Finally her son found out about this and the dialogues were interesting.... She said that she loves the conversation with her son because he has told her so many things .... she missed the old days when her son would come to her and just talk.... And coldly, her son aswered that he talked with the girl on the net, not to his Mom...

Funny don't you think that you can be sooo open about your life to a total strangers compare with your friends and even to your own families... Perhaps because with strangers, especially if they do not know who the heck we are, we have no worries that they will judge us for what we do or think... And even if they do judge us and give critics...., we can just accept that ... since the stranger does not know who we are exactly... But when we talk with someone that knew us, we are afraid for their reaction, we are worry for their response and how that is going to change the way they looking at us.... Ironic that strangers change into your family while your families and friend drifted to become a stranger....

afraid all the times


I am just one of the people who almost always says yes to their parents.

Most of my friends (sorry can not disclose their identity or they will kill me instantly) would rather try it first before admitted that their parents hold the truth and nothing but the truth.

"I hardly listen to my parents,"One of my closest friend told me. "Whenever they told me do not do this, I would do it the other way around.... If I can prove it that they are wrong, I would be proud... Well, not really tell them.... but you know the satisfaction. Naturally, when whatever they told me is the truth... I would only say in my heart...oh, well... at least I tried..."


Hehehehe.... No wonder I got stuck because I always worry and calculating and thinking hard before finally unable to proceed with whatever I am planning to do.... And therefore, regrets are the only thing that I have....

seasonal friends


A friend of mine called me last night and told me a loooong story almost about everything that bug her lately....

Well, you know we always belongs to different groups of friends...Often you like to hang out with this group because they like to watch movie and read books, so you all can discuss about it while sipping coffee at the cafe... Another time, you hang out with that group because all of you are going to the party and need to find new dress or even accessories together....

So, anyway this close friend of mine also have this kind of group. She's married and people in this group are also young couples with children. Their husbands met in a routine activities and eventually the wives also joining the club. I often heard they hang out together for all day long. Brunch in Bogor and having dinner back in Jakarta or the other way around. She even being loved by the children of this group. The children always welcoming her and they loves being with her as well she is with them.

But the happy moments are now over.... She felt that most of the time she is being an outcast among her friends... They always discuss and decide things before she arrive Or they are informing her that they will have this gathering somewhere and promise to pick her up... only they never did... And later she found out that they have left her behind without informing her... Making promises to have another gathering that they have no intention to keep or remember... She even feel that perhaps now she is have no job and being a housewife totally, these people started to ignore her and underestimate her....


When I heard that, I told her to get new groups, buddies or whatever to broaden her mind... And to comfort her , I said that probably those so-called friends are just seasonal friends. It was fun in the past when she hang out with them. But if now they do nothing but to hurt her feeling then perhaps she just have to move on.... And do not feel bad about it, because well... that just the way thing is.... There are happy time when you feel you wish to turn off the clock to stop the time... And then there are those sad moment when you wish you could forward the time or just go back to the past and make it all go away....

Almost nothing last forever.... We only have short moment in this world so why should we waste time with people who does not love and appreciate us?

Right? Or Wrong?


two comments from my friends from the previous posting made me create another new posting since to be honest today is the most not so creative day ever....


Do you often see movie about high school where famous kids mocking around kids that looks geeky, nerdy and in other words: not interesting at all? The not-so-famous kids have to endure torture, insults, thinking that it is because their look that makes them deserve them to be treated as the low class of society. Not many of them able to erase the thought that well, yes I am ugly so it is only natural I will never get same treatment like other people. Well, they probably starting to get used to it and never began to ask, what did I do so wrong (in my previous life, perhaps) to deserve this... The sad thing if they also treated other people exactly the same... Like for example, well I maybe not pretty but I am smart... THose who is not smart is not as the same level as I am... So, why should I be nice to them? THe abuse become the natural things to do.

Just the same I think like the hazing tradition when we entered school. I hate that moment when I was a newbie. Nevertheless, I did that too when I joined the Student Organization. I joined merely for the fun to initiate new students as I see it as something natural. I have the same experience and you newbie, should have it too.

And about bribing, well... let us not go there too far.. SO many sensitive people nowadays, they will think I disgrace their organization and such and I probably will get sued. Just like this, when there is only one taxi with two passangers and there is a riot, the taxi driver probably just pick whoever call him first. But what if the second person offer a lot of money just in order to get into the taxi? Both parties know is wrong, but they do it anyway.... Feel that both of them receive benefit from the event.


My other friend then commented that we have to know the standard which one is wrong and which one is not....because nowadays people seems love to turn them upside down... Which is very interesting

I think most of you have read about a boy who have to go through a court because he (obviously has nothing to do and have ill-mannered....aha... me, jumping into conclusion again) .... I don't know how...put a bee that finally sting at his classmate. The parents of the girl who stung by the bee did not take this very well. Perhaps all the mediation did not meet a peaceful end they decided to escalate the matter by reporting this to the police and it lead to the court of justice. The kid is terrified of course. From what I read on newspaper, the judge seems wise enough. He said that he will return the boy to the parents as he has done wrong by hurting other people (the girl got fever and sick after got stung). He regretted that this matter could not be solved peacefully between parents with the teachers as mediators. And you know what? All the people cheer up when the boy did not get sentence to jail. They all said that the kid just being a kid. I suppose it was funny to see your friend's cheeks got swollen after got stung by a bee. They should feel so lucky that the girl is not having some kind of allergies that could result fatal and devastating to all. And this is all because, the kid is being just a kid. Kid is considered okay to behave like that. Naturally, because they still unable to separate which one is okay and the other way around. Soooo, perhaps we should ask the parents? I just hope they not advising the kid like this,"Look, we understand that you just being a kid. Next time when you want to stung your friend with a bee, make sure nobody catch you in the act..."

Is not a problem


One day my colleague and I were talking about a lady with odor.... No hard feeling, I just do not like being around them. I can understand why people have odor due to some circumstances like have to be outside for a very long time. But to be working inside a building for almost a day long...? Why can't she do something about it? THe smell is so terrible, if we saw her coming out from one of the restroom, we decided not to enter the restroom and let the others have it... THe smell would still be available inside the restroom ... My colleague who already married, said to me,"I can't imagine how in the heck her hubby could put up with her?" You can even smell it from 30 - 40 cm... Then I said to her,"Well, her hubby is probably get used to it.... I mean, they have kids and such..."

When we first smell something unusual, we will reacted to response the new smell. But after a few minutes, let alone a dozen of years.... our nose will not be able to tell the difference. We would get used to it as human always try to adapting to any changing around their surrounding.

Wondering is that what we are doing when we receive constant insults all the times from people around us. Like saying to your juvenile brother who in trying to back to the right track,"Can you do that? You are used to be a crackhead and idiot..." If you keep on saying that daily, he will think that he is no good and useless person and will sure that everything he do will end up in failure.

Or, we have to bribe someone just to get the job done. We know is wrong, the person who receive the bribe know it as well. But we both get used to it and look at it as something common to get everything done smoothly.

Having something bad for a long time will make us think that is nothing wrong with it... and is just fine... Is just suppose to be that way....

Wow..., from talking about a smell into something like this???? I guess I have to go out much more to clear my head:)

Soap opera is for all


I remembered a director of a tv soap opera from Taiwan said about the male character in the movie. He said that the character created based on what women wanted from men. Handsome, caring, loving, romantic, and rich... Hehehhehehe... He said, in the real world there is no way that this kind of man ever existed.... He made it sound the the story on soap operas are all based on whatever women dream about men...

Well, that seems true enough...

But then, I read a posting created by my friend and suddenly I have an inspiration.

The story on soap operas does not created based on whatever women want. It is also for whatever men need from women. They wants low-maintenance women who are kind hearted, into domestic, and still able to maintain pretty face and slim body.... :)

Heheheheheheheh....

Wrong conclusion?

Well, perhaps not exactly. We always dream to find soulmate with our own criterias or fantasy or whatever.... We forgot to open our eyes and heart to others that able to accept us for whatever we are...

So guys..., don't feel a shame if you all into soap operas. Hey, the leading lady's character is created just for you :)

Hehehehehe...., throw away that remote as we are going to watch this soap operas together!

the future....


Yesterday, when I went to the office, the weather is so damn cold I decided to wear sort of heavy sweater to keep me warm. Especially since I am using busway every morning, where the air conditioner is still in perfect condition... it would be crazy not to wear sweater...

However, when I went home the weather is super friendly. Meaning, it was totally bright hot I almost melted inside the sweater. Why was I keep on wearing it? Well, of course! I could not bother myself by holding the sweater in my hand while trying desperately find something to hold on inside the bus? That would be suicide... I could trip and fall to other passangers...

Then this morning, the sun shining so bright and the weather is fine. I decided to wear something not so heavy, both of my blouse and my jumper. And now what happen? Heavy rain pouring down to us it made everybody in the office stammering from the cold weather... Brrrr... In short, I wear a wrong costume because I can not predict the exact weather!!!

Well, to be honest... I am not very good in predicting anything. Just look where I am right now? Hehehehehe....

Sometimes not knowing is frightening me... Will I manage to overcome the challenge of not being know to whatever going to happen to me? Or will it become an obstacle for me to reach something that I have been dying to have for a very long time? Am I reckless enough to decide anything without proper planning to handle whatever surprises that may come in the future? Or I live through it and try to pass day by day in peaceful mind?

Not taking sides


When two people having an argument or dispute, what is the first thing we do? Well, that depends...

If we know only a person from these two, chance is we are going to take side. It is a bit harder when we know both of them very well for ages... We really hates to see things going bad between them because well, we know both of the stories.

Why on earth I am writing this...?

Well, because I just got information about someone that recently making headlines on the media... The things that we know about that person is not entirely true , or at least according to the person who gave me the information.

Then, when I read Honeymoon with my Brother, I was kinda thinking... the book based on the story told by the groom. We only have a glimpse of explanation why the bride cancelled the wedding so sudden when every efforts have been given to make the holy ceremony and celebration going on well.

I suppose, being on a outsider who does not know any of these people give disadvantage and advantage as well.

The disadvantage, we will take sides only for the person who told the story as per their version. We will think, well at least this pereson is willing to share what is the reason this problem occuring in the first place. What about the other person? What was their story? What was their excuses? Not sharing? We often automatically assume that the person who do not share the story is the guilty party. We just assuming then judge the guilty party.

The advantage perhaps, we can give suggestion or give any comments without have to worry the others will get offended. Especially if we receive information from both sides. Oh so the reason he did that is because of these. And the other reacted because of these reasons. Etc.

All I am saying is, when we read any news, or heard anything... I guess we can not just judge the person involved because we have no idea what is really going on. Even if we have heard the story from both sides. Both can be telling the truth. Both can be lying because they just want to show they are right.

Sighed. I feel I can trust any information given to me nowadays...

sharing and teaching


You know...

I may have bad attitude and such, but if someone asked me to share my knowledge, I would not mind.

Why? Well, there is no use of me to keep the information and knowledge by myself...

But then again, life was never meant to be that simple... There is always a friction, whether we like it or not...

When a new person come to the office, the senior staffs are required to guide the newbies in order for them to be able to do the job. Or a worker guide her or his colleague to learn how the daily jobs being done...

Foe me, I am okay about the whole sharing knowledge and teaching stuffs...except :

1. The "Student" is acting as if I am going to be their slave forever and therefore I have to let them know about everything... Well, if that is the case, I prefer not to share everything...
2. The "Student" is someone with high rank than me, and giving a signal that they are going to sack me once they have all the knowledges... Well, again... I will save a few vital informations then
3. The "Student" is not listening to whatever I teach... Instead, insisting have their own way and drag me along with them in result the job is taking forever than it suppose to. When I give information or teach or share, then please do it my way so I can get the job done and able to clear that thick head of yours. If along the way, you find a better way then by all means, do so. But if you acting as if my way is wrong and yours is the right one, then do not bother to ask me to teach you again. Assuming you have known everything. Then again, if you have known everything ... why in the heck did you ask me to teach you??
4. The "Student" is acting as if I am the one who greedily keep the knowledge to myself and not going to share. Please, when I am dead that so-called knowledge is not going to be taken away with me to the grave... I clearly do not need that to burden me while passing through to the other side.

In short, if you wish to learn, then come to me and stop acting like a prick. I am not receiving any payments from you so keep that bossy attitude to someone else...

photos


Whenever I saw a great photos on the net, these are the words that I will be saying to them :

1. Nicely done
2. Awesome
3. Gorgeous
4. Oh... so beautiful
5. Oh, soooo cute (mostly to kids and animals)
6. How adorable (again, to kids and animals)
7. Nice shot
8. Great picture
9. On the condition... like... oooh, the picture is soooo romantic
10. Amazing

Come to think of it... I hardly ever give any comment about the technic... Like, oh this picture give me nothing... Is empty... I do not know what you are getting at with this picture... Or the lighting is good... Or the combination of the colours is wonderful... Come to think of it... I hardly say something like that...

Usually I just give comment about how the picture give me some kind of imagination or the first impression that I got from it... Or the first thought that came to my mind...

Well, anyway... what is my intention for taking photos? At first, I like taking photos of me, me and me... Hehehehhe... I can not understand why people just taking photos on sceneries or places without nobody in the picture... I remembered my friend almost lost her patience because I asked her to take photos of me almost every 5 minutes when we were travelling together... She loves taking photos but only sceneries or something that attracting her... So, we both loves taking photos is just with different objects... Hehehehe...

But, recently after I joined websites where people upload their photos... it makes me realize... Those sceneries are already beautiful... Does not need any ornaments to make it so (ornaments meaning: people including myself) and taking photos of them is only for something to remember by... That nature is so beautiful. No simple words can explain how mesmerizing nature is...

Then again, I still can find words easily to praise the beauty of the nature rather than to speak about it technically :)

So sleepy!!! Help

How to drive away the boredom and sleepyness

1. Go to the bathroom and splash a lot of water in your face, hope this will be able to wake you up
2. Still dreaming about the couch at home? Drink a cup of coffee... Hot bitter no sugar coffee... The bitter will be able to snap you out of your day dreams
3. Still no? Hmmm, let see... erm, drink a lot of water ... What the hell for? Well, you will need to go back and forth to the bathroom... Hopefully the journey to and from the bathroom will be able to open your eyes...
4. No luck? Aish, do not eat any snack with lots of sugar.... It will drive you to the dreamland sooner than you think
5. Read your friend's blog or create this silly postings...