Just listen

Never say that your problem is bigger than anybody else's problem...

Like when you listening to your friend telling you about the things that they have been going through.... Then you thinking that you had it worse say things like this...,"You think you had it bad? How about me...?" then blah, blah, blah you take over the conversation telling your bad day... Well, perhaps you meant well... You wanted your friend to be tougher with his or her problem... And try to make comparison that those people's problems are a lot heavier than this...

Although you meant well, I do not think that is the wise thing to do.... I mean, imagine yourself... Telling your problem to your friends or family... After all the emotion that you felt sharing the story, and the reaction you get is: "OH, dear... You sound so serious... I thought someone died... You know about that woman who almost died from the crash last year...." and so on...

Whatever on our mind, regardless we are being understanding or not so understanding..., maybe we should try to be supportive by just being a listener... Sometimes people does not need our suggestion or idea or comment or lecture...they just wants us to listen... And if you think later that this person does need a shock therapy by story telling that other people had it harder... that's another story for another time...

The very last thing that person need is to be compared to other TOUGHER people and made him or her feeling more worthless than ever...
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