Friendship forever...not...


Have any of you saw this movie : Bride Wars? The story about two friends planning to get married in the same place ever since they were still very young…

I am not going to talk about how absurd the story was like how a school teacher could afford to get married in such prestigious place which I assume only the rich able to do so… But…, I am going to talk about something else…

Having a friend for eternity is something that I really admire the most… Of course, learning from that movie that the friendship is also going through disagreement, misunderstanding, backstabbing but in the end…they realize they were being silly and soon they become friends again…

What made a friendship end in the middle of the road?

I often read about seasonal friends, friend who only there when you need them like friends during you start a new activity….for example in the gym or biking and such… They are only there to accommodate you enjoying the activity or a situation…after that they will walk out from your life without you realizing it…

You are still single while your friend already married… You are still working while your friend is a devoted housewife leaving her career to be at home. At first, both of you probably still have things to be talked about… Soon enough you will run out topic of conversation about your daily life… I think if both of you and your friend still open minded and take turn to listen and share stories…everything will be fine. But if one of you try to force your preference topic of conversation…the friendship probably will dried up for quiet some times until the moment you feel that you miss each other… 

One of you just using the friendship for personal benefit… I do not have to tell you that once one party finally gain whatever hidden agenda then the friendship will no longer be useful… Especially when one party fail to achieve what they really want from the friendship…, they will think that this friendship is a total waste of time and eagerly move on to another victim. This kind of friend is sort of like a parasite or a leech that will suck you up till you dried up.

You have been friend with this person for eternity and think that you can do or say whatever you please as your friend surely understand that you mean no harm. This kind of behavior will lead only to disaster until each party realize that they should not take their own friend for granted. That sometimes your friend just want you to appreciate them and not just considerate them as a door mat only.

Anybody wish to add more?
4 Responses
  1. -Indah- Says:

    Huaa.. itu gambar kucingnya lucu bangets!

    Hmm.. kalo soal friendship-nya sendiri.. nothing lasts forever, not only about friendship but all things will finally come to an end at some points :)


  2. bridge Says:

    not really.... My parents has been friends with another couple ever since they were younger even up to now... :) So, something does last forever...


  3. Indah Says:

    Hehehe.. penekanannya kayanya beda nih :D

    Kalo gua sih ngeliatnya biar gimana, waktu kita di bumi ini terbatas, walau mungkin bukan pertengkaran yang memisahkan sebuah persahabatan, tapi kematian itu pasti akan dialami setiap dari kita.. dan ketika kematian menjemput maka yang telah pergi itu hanya bisa hidup dalam kenangan tanpa bisa diajak berinteraksi secara langsung lagi.


  4. bridge Says:

    iya beda... Soalnya bokap gue and temennya itu....walau temennya already passed away for more than 10 years...rasa persahabatan itu tetap ada.... Bokap gue tetap memperhatikan kelg dari sahabatnya ... Itu yg bagi gue the true meaning of forever friends.... Biarpun salah satu sudah gak ada, bukan berarti tali silahturahmi putus begitu aja....


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