No mistake

I think once I wrote about younger kids able to grasp new things quickly or should I say that they are faster learner than us… Probably because they have no idea what would happen if they make a mistake…so, they give it a try to do things at their best… Often, we have to let them know and learn from the mistake… And sometimes, we have to be like them… Thinking the way they see the world…and just do it… with no worries whether we are going to make mistake or not…

  But, there are several things in life when grown ups decided that they have to interfere regardless the consequences… Like protecting their kid from something that they know it will ruin the future of those kids…

Someone I know share me something that has been bugging her… Her teenage daughter is having (sort of) a relationship with older guy. Well, if her daughter is already 20 and the guy is 26, we will not care… But her daughter is still 14 and the guy already reach 20…and still studying in the university. What she did not like, ever since her daughter get involve with this guy, she forgot all the things that she wanted… Like get a scholarship and continue her studying… She even lied to her mother about her relationship with this guy knowing that her mother did not approve. And later, she found out that her daughter has been receiving text messages about making love or about getting married or whatever…  That guy even taught her daughter not to disagree with her parents in order to avoid suspicion from her family… They make it sound so dramatic with words, “Even if the world against us…we will be together forever…”
(Maybe they have been watching too much of Romeo and Juliet…and forgot to notice that the couple is end up dead and not living together happy ever after)

She asked me whether her action is correct in stopping her daughter getting involved with that guy…

Well, first… I would not know since I have never been in a relationship… But, I do know that getting married is another journey to adulthood… And I am sorry but for me being 14 years old is not an adult. At that age, everything still looks beautiful, magical, lovable and romantic… Sure, we can imagine sharing a shack together until we grow old… but seriously do we really want to raise a kid inside a shack? What if they just do it and that guy refuse to take responsibility when the girl finally gets pregnant? We can not just say, okay…this is a mistake… Now that you have learnt it from your experience, please make sure you will not do this again in the future… Hallo? They just create another human being that need to be fed… Will she mentally up to it?

Then how will we know to separate when we should let the people we know learn from their mistakes and when we should just interfere for good?

Only we, ourselves can answer that… 
9 Responses
  1. Indah Says:

    Pertama2.. gambarnya bagus euyy!

    Keduaa.. hmm.. 14 itu usia yang masih labil jadi mungkin ada baiknya sang ortu bukan hanya melarang tapi juga memberitahu sang anak kenapa dilarang berhubungan dengan cowok ituu..

    Karena masa2 remaja itu khan umur2nya lagi pengen membangkang, ahahaha :p


  2. o Says:

    nambahin komen indah: si cowo juga perlu diberitahu supaya tidak mengganggu si anak cewe..

    yah gimana ya.. kalo di bbrp negara barat (dr kasus2 yg gw tau), anak2 yg belum 18 thn bener2 di bawah kontrol ortu. apalagi hukum negara utk aturan berhubungan seksual juga ketat. kayaknya gw pernah nulis di blog ttg cowo yg punya cewe umur 16th dan disuruh menjauh oleh ortu si cewe..


  3. bridge Says:

    masalahnya teman2, pengaruh si cowok ini kuat banget ke anak itu.... Si anak udah diberi pengertian sm ortu-nya kemungkinan terburuk yg bisa terjadi, tapi si anak blg itu hanya si ortu yg mengarang - ngarang situasi supaya dia putus... Si cowok juga udah berusaha di dekati, kalau emang mau beneran....then talk to the parents.... Tapi dia gak mau....


  4. Meysha Says:

    aduh... dunia anak muda, gw dah g ngehh nih. qiqi..
    g gaul sih...


  5. bridge Says:

    hahahahaha, tua'an mana sih elo ama gue?


  6. o Says:

    kalo si cowo masih ngeyel juga.. bisa lapor polisi dgn tuduhan pacaran dgn anak di bawah umur :p


  7. bridge Says:

    niatannya sih begitu kalau gak nyadar2 juga


  8. twitjune Says:

    saya msh 14th nih mo kasi komen ya...buat ortu si cewe segera selamatkan anaknya serta masa depannya. kirim ke luar kota, luar pulau, luar negeri, dimana ada saudara ato kenalan yg bisa dipercaya untuk menjaga anak gadisnya..do anything it takes to keep that boy away!! tdk usah takut...ini kewajiban org tua apalagi stlh membaca sms di ponsel anaknya..orangtua justru salah jika tidak segera mengambil tindakan..karena mslh ini bukan mslh sepele. ini menyangkut kehormatan wanita yang masih belia. mungkin saat ini anak gadisnya akan kecewa, sakit hati bahkan benci. jangan pedulikan itu...5 th dr sekarang anak gadis itu pasti akan berterimakasih pada apa yg sudah dilakukan oleh org tuanya..


  9. bridge Says:

    betul setujuuuu.... Memang susah deh kalau lagi fall in love di usia begitu bisa super nekat... Padhal kalau udah kejadian, tinggal nyesel... tapi semua udah terlambat....


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