Honest? Open? Rude?

Once I knew someone who said almost about everything that popped out of her head... She would asked me or anybody else why the person A is cheating with person B while they both are married or she was simply show her surprise if a regular guy in our office manage to have gorgeous girl friend.... 

 So, naturally, we are all avoiding talking to her and never ask her to join our trip together as none of us can stand her mouth nor the awkward moment when she say something... for example about me being fat in front of everybody... When one of us tell her that she was so rude and should not say such things... she would roll her eyes and answerred that she is just simply saying the truth....

Yeah, well... probably there is a different about being honest and open and rude... Simon Cowell probably one of the few who can get away by being honest and double rude... And that because he needs to do that to give critics on the contestant so they do see their flaws and try reaching for their very best... Of course also not many people can stand that either so, it is also about mind game... Do you have what it takes to be an idol? People will tell you a lot of things that more hurting than Simon ever tell...

But anyway, back to my topic... Can we being honest but not rude? Or being nice but lie straight face? I have no idea... But one thing I do know, is that I am not going to say outloud about a friend who have over weight kid on how fat her kid is and what she has been feeding to that child? That would be rude, though it did cross my mind that whether this kid is going to have obesity due to her (over) weight? That would be rude to both of them, and probably not going to stop the eating habit to that kid anyway because people is going to be defensive about that... And definately I am not going to say how gorgeous the kid is because that would be a total lie as well.... 

All I know, the pressure is even bigger when you have to say the harsh truth to your own friend... Your words may motivate them to do something better or provoke them to be worst than ever.... Not to mention is ruining your friendship



Stressing, huh?

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