Just shut up please...

There are so many complains and outrage on the internet over statements given by many goverment officials in Indonesia...

The statement (I do not have the face to put it here because I think the whole world know how moron these people are....*positive thinking that my blog being read by so many people around the world*) sounds so insenstive, cruel because being said at the time like this and obviously brainless...

But then again we being not having to live there by ourselves, or going through some kind of ordeals will not know how the real feeling to be in that kind of situation...
Like for example, I once heard that children who saw with their own eyes how devastated tsunami in Aceh in the year 2004 took away everything in their life within seconds....were traumatized seeing the water. They do not even want to be near the bathtub full with water, avoiding swimming pool and obviously scare to be near the sea.
If we have no idea about the terrible situation they have been going through obviously we just simply said,"OH for heaven sakes! I know it was terrifying to you but you need to get over with..." Really, is it that simple? I think not...
Or.."Well, you know the risk to live near the sea... You should be aware about that in the future..." Sound so heartless...
and "You are going to be afraid with all the water in the world just because tsunami?" ...err...can't we blame these people?

I heard on television a caller said something interesting to the broadcaster about current situation," If you can't please other people then the least you could do is to stop annoying them..."

In this current situation I would say...," I you could not come up with something nice to say then probably you should just shut up.... PLEASE..."

HAPPY SUNDAY to you all... Let's all start to think wisely of everything we are going to say in the future... Otherwise... Keep our mouth shut...

Pray for Indonesia


With so many natural disasters now in Indonesia and not to mention transportation accidents happened recently as well...I think this year is the hardest time for us Indonesian people.

On top of that...we have to read, notice and watch all annoying informations about heartless people who SHOULD be pay a lot attention to the victims of all natural disasters and massive transportation accidents. However we have to read and get upset to read how heartless those people are... I mean, yeah sure when you are in some kind of important position there is this tendency to abuse your power or take some kind of advantages to yourself and your family... BUT, seriously doing that in the middle of situation where you should at least grieving or PRETEND to be sad even only for lip service... You are all really have opened our eyes about the real you.... In a way we sort of thank you that it does not wait too long for you to show the demon inside you...

It is just sad that sometimes we have to pay dearly for the wrong decision that we took in our life... We thought that we have done the real thing, to the greater good even though all the cynical people laughing on our face... But, it turn out sometimes we just need to NOT PARTICIPATE to destroy ourselves, to sink ourselves under the sea, to put mud on our faces... and to live in denial that by participate we have contribute something good for the people...

Bleh....

My condolence to all the people who have to go through these ordeals... Our heart and prayers are with you always... To us probably soon this will be yesterday's news... But for you over there...you are going to remember this forever and times seems stop at the very moment that tragedy happened... Hopefully God will grant you strength to go through all of these...

From the people, to the people, by the people ... REAL PEOPLE ONLY...

That was then this is now part 2

Hahahaha.... Yeah, this is another post from talking heart to heart with my Dad...

He told me that when he was a lot younger he was willing to be stationed anywhere... Willing to learn and take any kind of jobs no matter how hard it is... We all know that most of the time newbie at work get the worst job or have to go through the hazing process... Like you really have to start from the bottom like getting coffee for your boss or taking any kind of orders from your seniors and supervisors... And you just have to stand taking that kind of treatment to show others that you are serious in doing your job... And not being picky...

"And in return," my Dad said "one of my supervisor who just promoted to higher level remember my hard work... He made sure that I was enlisted to go on the job training to Netherland... So, you see that's why I always advice you to work with your heart and don't think too high of yourself... You are new and therefore to learn you really have to prepare yourself to learn from the bottom and do anything..."

So, smiling widely I said, "That was then... This is now..."

He looked at me, "Meaning?"

"Well, sure during your days...only few people really ready to work regardless their education... So, there were lots of jobs available but few qualified people..."

Remember, it was the moment when Indonesia just gained its freedom as a nation. Most youngsters probably passed away during the war...so naturally there were few qualified people left to fill the job.

"Nowadays, many smart people graduated from university and hungry for jobs... There are probably thousands of them... But only few positions... We have to fight for it... And therefore people with high social skills manage to steal the attention.... "

P.S. Social skill also including sweet talk or kissing ass or whatever you want to call it...

"If we only ready to work, always available for work even if we are not feeling well, never argue with the supervisor, just stay silent....they will not remember us... Because we have becoming invisible... We are there but we are not really there... And we will stay like that probably for the rest of our life..."


My Dad sighed, "You do live in the hardest time...eh?"

That's life.... Dad.... :) Reality bites you hard...

That was then this is now



I often went with my parents to the hospital for their regular check up. Since my Dad has this health insurance as for being a retiree from this company, going to the hospital is like a scheduled reunion between him and his former colleagues. Often my Mom knew several of them, probably met them when she went to the office to collect my Dad’s paycheck. Mind you, ages ago people still lining up in the office to collect their salaries. Not like nowadays where everything being done by transferring from that account to another. 
I rarely listened to his conversation with his buddies. I once heard him teasing his former colleague who has to use staff to help him walking, “You used to hold hand of pretty girl now you hold on to your dear life with a staff?” And then they laughed out loud though I did not find it funny but well...yeah a bit amusing...
Anyway, one day when my Dad and me were having our lunch at the cafetaria inside the hospital he met not only one but two former colleagues who knew each other as well. This time, in the middle of reading my book I half listening to their conversation.

They all agreed that most men nowadays think nothing but themselves. And most of all they can think nothing but how to get more money. Not to mention that those young men now are so cold and care less about anyone else. Very individualist and probably willing to stab others from the back. Then they reminiscing the old days when they were a lot younger. They are willing to lend hand to the other because they did not think about themselves. They think as one, if we all can work together then this work will be finished perfectly.
After they left, I asked my Dad were those men his subordinates? My Dad then replied they were his junior but since they have better education they could climbing the ladder to the higher position. But nevertheless, they still respect my Dad because he never hesitated to share his knowledge to his junior and subordiniates. He said people nowadays are too afraid to share their knowledge for fear loosing their jobs to someone new. Not to mention most youngster are now think nothing but money and money.

I smile widely and said to him,” Dad, life is hard these days... Yeah, during your time your generation have to face the war and situation after the war... But, right now we have different problems. There are many unemployments but only few available jobs. Naturally when we finally have it viciousness has become our instinct to survive...”

He asked me,”So, did you hold back your knowledge to your junior?”
“Depends, “ I shrugged... “If they are willing to learn more and politely ask then I will give them all I know... But if they are acting like a jackass...even if they are my superior...then I would not tell them all... Let them sweat a bit...”

He sighed... ,”I guess it is a different world nowadays... People forget to connect with the others due to financial problems and demands... If they think about the other, they afraid they will not going to get any...”

Like I said, life is hard nowadays...

Rain, flood, traffic jam

It has been raining like crazy in these two days... Oh dear, later on I am going to go with my parents to the hospital for their medical check ups...
Please let it not be rain anymore... GOD, I am begging youuuu....

 On Monday 25 October 2010 was the worst traffic jam ever, or so I heard because I was stay safely at home. It has been raining since 4 PM and not ended until 07 PM... By that time, there were accidents, flood on the main streets, traffic on highways... people were either sleep, eat, watch tv on their car or cursing to whoever responsible for this... Not to mention those people who have to walk to find public transportation to get home. Or people who standing tiredly on the bus because the journey take longer time than usual. It is a nerve wrecking experience living in Jakarta. Especially now, rain could pouring down at anytime after blazing hot weather in the morning.

I have one of those experience got stuck inside the public transportation for hours due to rain and flood. Though probably not as worst as the one on 25 Oct 2010. It was depressing and tiring... When you finally arrived at your destination all you want to do is sleep and sleep because it was so exhausting...

Traffic jam was probably one of many reasons I quit my job. I just could not take it anymore...aside that having too many things to do in the office. I have to get up early and went to the office around 06.00 AM... WHich I think it was ridiculous because from home to office should only takes about 30 minutes... But thanks to traffic jam, I have to be there early... Working early because what else I should do after arriving in the office? Get some sleep? Then I have to go home late at night, facing windy rain, thunders, dust from vehicles, robbers, pickpockets... It was too much...

can I still hope that everything is going to get better in the future? As from time to time I still like to go out at night or in the afternoon... Perhaps I should open an inn for those workers who unable to go home due to heavy rain and flood... Sighed...

About single life

 A few days ago after watching Like As We Know It... I suddenly remember few things from my past... 

Long ago I have this friend who just recently married and have their first daughter. It was truly tormenting hanging out with your just married friend. She suddenly want to matchmaker me with someone that she know... I am fully aware that she meant well but i just feel she was a little bit too much. I asked her a few details about the guy that she wanted to introduce me. She said that the guy has a steady job though his salary is not yet big. But he is a hard worker and she is postively sure I am going to like him. I just nodded politely and never asked about that guy again. And she make it sound I am like a gold digger only want to have rich husband (though of course I would not mind...heheheh)

Another torture is to listen to snob and annoying married couple about their happiness together and their wonderfully smart gorgeous children... About their sex life and so on... And they whispering to each other as if they do not want me to hear afraid I am going to be blushed...
Last but not least is to attend their children’s birthday party... Can you imagine that you have to be there, grinning like an idiot... In the middle of crying and running kids around you... With their gloated looking parents parading their children to anyone who want to listen. Yeah, I get it your children is great but enough listening about them for the whole day.

Then after watching that movie I suddenly remember about those silly chlldren songs I used love to hear... Gosh, that must be awful for my parents... Worst, I used to love listening to the drama series on cassettes. My parents must have been wishing to destroy the tape...
Seeing that movie we also learn something that we actually know that raising kids is not an easy job. I remembered an online friend of mine once sort of wondering why all movie or tv series make it sound that being pregnant especially at the young age are so much fun. She said she did not regret having her children. But she also did not want to deluded herself saying that it was all fun and fun. She has to take care of the children when they crying, sick, ask for food, crying, not to mention changing diaper and if you do not have maids...it means you have to wash all clothes by yourself. And there are bills from hospital and so much more. You also have to save a lot to ensure your children can go to the best school ever. And of course you have to prepare their clothes, shoes, and any other stuffs that they probably beg you to buy it for them,.

So yes, having children is not easy or at least not all fun like the movie often portraying... I think what my friend meant to say that those movies should stated gloomy fact as well instead about the wonderful journey imagination. In that movie those two adults have been used to live all alone by themselves and only occasionally playing nice uncle and auntie. But when they have to take care the baby by themselves...they have to admit that they have no idea whatsoever. And it was really frustrating though that was the point of being a parents. You have no idea whether you have done the right thing. But you know you are going to do your best for your kid...

Me, I do not like kids too much. Though many people said that I am going to regret not having one because I am not going to have someone to take care of me when I grow old...well... Maybe I am going to regret that someday... But I am going to regret even more for not able to give decent living to that kid... I could not afford the medical bills, the living bills (like food, clothes, things), school bills and lots other bills... So having kids definately not on my mind.... At least right now...

Getting old

 A few days ago I went to watch this movie RED (Retired. Extremely Dangerous). I think it is like another action comedy Hollywood kind of movie. But, what I like this movie talk about a group of retirees government agents.

Have you ever wondered how you are going to spend your old days? Are you going to be in the nursery home for elderly? Will you ever going to have enough saving to live there? We all know that the expenses are not going to be cheap. But then, if you do have a saving to be spent there… what are you going to do in your old days… Well, if you are going to make it there… What are you really going to do?

I saw in that movie how those agents tried hard to adjust with their new life… I could imagine if in their younger days they must be facing endless task not to mention dangerous and adrenalin pumping. But it seems they are those people who simply born with it. And secluded solitude life does not fit them right. They are agitated and always find excuse or reason to back into action.

To tell you the truth I have no idea what I am going to become in my old day…that is if God is willing that I should reaching that age. Now that I am single, I am starting to think to save bit by bit so I can afford the expenses to live in a nursery home. I have nobody that I know is going to take care me in the old age. And I am not expecting anyone will want to do that. Getting old is hard whether we are willing to admit that or not. First we are not as strong as we used to. We get tired easily…and want to have a quick rest from time to time. Our sight not as good as before and worst we probably going to be senile. Forget things and anyone easily.

My Dad once told me about his friends entering the pension period. Most of them passed away shortly as they did not have activities at all. When we said activity it doesn’t have to be heavy physical. They could spend the morning with do a little bit of walk or simple exercise. That is for physical exercise… And for the mind…probably do a little cross word or even Sudoku… And for the heart…surely to have a little bit of chit chat with other people… Like my friend used to say, if she is going to be put in the nursery home for elderly she is going to hunt for a new husband… Hahahaha… She’s nuts.

So, back to our previous topic… What is actually I am going to do in the old age? Really have no idea. Perhaps I am still going to write and write? Gosh, I hope my eyes still allow me to keep on reading and writing… Hopefully already published books so at least I have something to be proud about…

I just hope I don’t end up sick and bored and wish to die to avoid the misery of life… May God still grant me the energy to spend my old days admiring the beauty of nature and my surrounding… Something that youngster use to neglect and suddenly remember about it in the old days…  In short, getting old is not the end of the world...

digitally yours

I  just love digital camera... You can bring it everywhere with you... You can take any photos that you want to and just staring at it on your computer (though my Mom complain about it a lot as what's the point of taking so many pictures if you can not hold them in your hands? Well, Mom... that's the point...) ... If only digital camera technology already existed when I was a lot younger... I think I would have enough pictures (of myself) who can make anybody smirked with disbelief.

Then finally digital camera is on cellular phone. For a freak like me it is like a dream come true... At that time I only use it to take photos of myself (again?), me and my friends, my pet, my parents... But now, since i started this blog about buses and other public transportation I can take pictures of people on the buses, the public transportation, the highway, the passengers without them really noticing. Well, I think it would look so strange if you see someone is taking photo of you standing on the bus or worst... Fighting with other passenger on the bus or other public transportation... With cellphone, you can pretending as if you were in the middle of texting someone and then click click... I have the picture already.

Of course to be able to take anybody picture without them know about it made me feel sort of like God... Kidding... I mean, here I am lurking from  corner looking for something interesting for me to take a picture. I could be mean and take any photo that interesting and uploading them on the net and put some vicious comment... Like...for example a woman who wear everything in purple. Yes, all of her things. Her tops, her legging, her shoes, her backpack, her umbrella, her scarf... I have seen one, and i did take a photo... But then I changed my mind to upload that photo on the net. I just think that would be rude and impolite... I would not want anyone taking photos of me sitting with my big belly looking gloomy... So, I just keep the photo on my harddisk...

I think sometimes when you have a certain power to do anything with anything that you have, there is still a limit for you to follow... Will that photo annoying or offending someone else? We are not all celebrity and we certain do not want our private life go public because something stupid that we have done and someone cruel enough take photos of it and share it with the entire world...

Digitally yours...and yours only... Not with all people in the world...

Life is like shoes laces

I have this sport shoes…which my first intention when I bought this shoes was for me to wear IF I go on traveling. Because it seems that intention will need a very long, long, loooong time for me to accomplish I use the shoes for walking in the morning… 

What annoyed me the most when the shoe lace keep on loose… I almost fall over tripping my own shoe lace… So, from time to time I need to check them whether I need to tie them again… 

I think life sometimes is like that shoe lace. No matter how you tried to make it look nice by tied them up once in a while it will loosen up again… And we could fall because we step on the loose shoe lace.

We can not control everything in our life…even though we tried so hard to do so. And often it drives us so mad because there are things we can not control…

Can we control the weather? No we can not do that… And yet, we tried to by listening to the weather forecast… Trying to figure out what the weather is going to be today… So if we can not control the weather at least there is something we could anticipate… Maybe bring umbrella or rain coat… But after days you hearing about the forecast saying that there would be rain however the reality is not like that…you grew tired. And you just leave all your equipment at home. Then when you least expected, heavy rain comes pouring down on earth… Who could you blame? Nobody…
Or you have an outdoor wedding party… It is on the dry season for heaven sakes! Rain usually does not hit the earth around March here in Indonesia… But with global warming issues…weather becoming more unpredictable. Heavy rain starts from just a gentle water drop from the sky…then suddenly…bbbrrrr…. Who you are going to blame and angry for ruin everything? Nobody… And then you get all stress up because your plan to make everything memorable and beautiful has been demolished by the heavy rain. You just want to get mad and mad because you stumble on that problem…

There are so many things in this life that we wish to make it right… We makes plan, we arrange everything…and yet… there are things that could make everything goes on not according to the plan…

To the people who easily giving up…then they will keep on walking and stumbling with the loose shoes lace… They know the problem but they are too frustrated to fix it… And the other probably just sigh and smile and standing up then fix the problem by fixing the shoes lace. Over and over again without getting tired of it. Because life is just like that…  

Seduced...

Recently I saw on TV a mother crying for her lost teen daughter. She said that by information from friends of her daughter, she went to see a guy she knew from Facebook. The guy promised to give her daughter handphone and Blackberry. And he also promised to give her money every week. When she showed up on television it was informed that her daughter already missing for about two weeks. 

When her mother crying to share her sadness on tv with the reporter, she said to her missing daughter that she will not be angry again with her. It seems her daughter has this habit to ran off from home every time she scolded by her mother. I feel sad watching that her mother feel the need to apologize in such a way. She probably fear for the worst that her daughter already been sold as prostitute in foreign country. Looking at her picture, the 13 years old girl is very pretty and looks a lot mature from her real age.

Anyway, only few days after the mother being interviewed on tv and showed the picture of her daughter…guess what…? The police successfully get the proprietor along with the girl…  Well, a girl being lost in space with a lot older guy for two weeks… I am sure you can already imagine what has happened to that poor girl. However, since she went voluntarily with that guy the police only charged him with having indecent relationship with under age girl. They could not charge him with kidnapping because it was the girl who asked that guy to pick her up since she was running away from home.

We may say anything like what in the heck she see in that ugly older guy? Oh, by the way just for information… That guy edited his photo so he look more handsome (please teach me how to do that! Kidding) and easy to lure his victim. Well, surely after meet him face to face that girl should wake up and hear the music, right? Nope. She went with him anyway. Since it is not his look that she wants then we could only assume this guy is sweet with words…

Many times we as an outsider saw unhealthy relationship because the guy cheated or violent with his girlfriend. But the girl just keeps holding on to the relationship. I suppose he really know how to sweep her over the heels. He controls them by keep on saying sweet words to them… It was his way to lure her in the first time (that and the fake photo making him look drop dead gorgeous). Then after she saw him for real he still manages to keep her stay with him. And may I add, not by force but simply by seducing her with more words to make her fly to the moon. She did not realize that her future already half ruin. The other half is depending on her family whether they will be able to support her and love her still.

It will not be easy to advise younger girl that THERE IS NO WAY A STRANGER WANTS TO GIVE EVERYTHING FOR FREE… And that we could not just spend the rest of our life consuming empty words for short term comfort. After all, can we say to ourselves that we are not going to be moved by appraising gentle words? 

Feeling...

I am not really a good student. In the learning process I am not a very patient person and therefore often seek easier ways to learn the lesson.

Like when I learned English for the first time in Junior High School. There were so many theories (well, for me is a bit much)… Like how to form a sentence using Past Tense, Present Tense, and Future Tense…. I think I was stop dead at Past Perfect Tense or something like that… See? I could not even remember the exact tenses! 

Realizing that if I have to limit myself with standard theory (though it is mandatory for future understanding) then there would be big chance that I was going to flunk my studying. And I would get bad remarks on my studying report. So, I decided to memorize more vocabularies, and naturally their form in different tenses. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know… IT IS A WRONG WAY TO STUDY… I was like a butterfly could not get out from its cocoon and decided to get help but in the end…I have no strength to survive… is it correct? Well sort of like that… I sort of depended on the feeling every time I faced English test. I am pretty sure that if I have to sit on official English test it will be a catastrophe.

Anyway, one day our English teacher started to give oral tests to each one of us. Like why this word put it here, or why we have to choose that one to this sentence… And we all managed to answer her questions correctly. However, she was upset to learn that NONE of us knew why this verb should be in this sentence… or how do we know to use that form for this sentence… And most of us answered, “Well Ma’am… we depend on our feeling… “

She was flabbergasted and then almost screaming to the whole class… Obviously she was mad because if we all depending on our so-called-feeling…then she has totally failed to teach us about the correct ENGLISH… Well, Ma’am…

I think I also speak terrible English because well…you know…  I have no idea how to write English with proper grammar… Actually…correction… I am just too lazy to find out how to write with correct grammar… And I am just too ignorance to care about grammar when it comes to speaking with foreigners in situation like during vacation or on a trip somewhere. If I have to think…oh no…how should I say this word… Did I say to them correctly? Did they laugh at my stupidity? Oh dear… I would end up not moving forward…

Well, all I am going to say…my ways to learn English probably did me good in the short term but definitely not in the longer term. I am too lazy to learn everything from the bottom again because I am too arrogant thinking that I have known to write and speak English though not perfectly. That’s not a good may to completely able to do things in the most perfect way. You may not going to find out the difficulty now but surely you are going to in the future…

(Note from the writer : If you ask me whether I am going to open my English book again after giving you all lecture…then shamefully the answer is still: NO)

20102010




Wow… what an interesting date! I think it is more or less similar with the previous date : 10.10.2010 ….

But what did I hear from the news yesterday? Yup, today there will be massive demonstration about a year from our President and his VP being elected and sworn to lead this country. Many people said that they were not satisfy with the current government.

CURRENT GOVERNMENT? Seriously? Just currently? Not ever since long ago or previous era?

It is still very clear on my mind and I am dead sure that so many people still remember the dark 12th May 1998 when riots spread out across Jakarta and soon to other cities though not as worst as in the capital city. Students went on huge rally to protest the government… But it turn ugly when there were shooting and few students passed away because of that. People were angry and start to cause riots everywhere. It did not take long before the looting process turn into attacking certain ethnics. Many of them suffered countless beating and tortures. Within hours many of Indonesian fled the country bring only whatever on their body. Other people scare to go out and many communities started to work together to defense their homes. We were worried that there might be looters who would seek and destroy anything that passed in front of them. I barricaded our home with whatever I could think of. I refused to go to the office as at that time…who cares about me not being promoted to permanent staff? I prefer to be at home with my family at the time like this. Meanwhile my Dad and my Uncle were at another house. Also keep on guarding from whatever might happen.
People who still went to work have to walk miles away because only few public transportation willing to operate on that time. It was creepy. Even after few days the government able to take controls the situation I still gaped at army tank passing on the main street.

That is why people especially those who has to leave their loves one to go to work or find a living…naturally would feel anxious every time we heard…, “Hey, there will be demonstration over here…”, “Watch it, I heard there will be massive rally to celebrate the Labour Day” and so on… Every time we heard the word “RALLY”, “DEMONSTRATION” our mind will flashes back to the year 1998 when peace demonstration turn ugly and almost destroy every living soul in Jakarta.

Other things that we are worry about was heavy traffic jam caused by the demonstration. Sure, they always finished the rally or demonstration before working hour in the office is over. But then, the traffic jam already happening since they start the demonstration and it will keep on going until late at night. Especially if the so-called peace demonstration turns into angry mob and destroy public facilities. The destroyed facilities scattered on the street and eventually policemen have to be on the street to ensure other people could pass the street safely.

So, forgive me if I am totally NOT SUPPORTING any kind of rallies or demonstration even though they sent our concern of whatever going on right now in this country. Corruption, poverty, natural disaster, education, health, works opportunities and so on.

I just hope that later I will not have to hear that something bad has happened.

Let us all pray that today is going to be another fine day…

Story from Chile

A few months ago people were shock to read that more than dozens of miners in Chile were trapped underground. They were pleading help to be rescued from there…but all of them knew…that’s not an easy task to do. I remembered that when I first read the news two months ago, the rescuers team said that it would need them four months to prepare everything… But the trapped miners begged to be rescued sooner than four months. And it turns out they were rescued out from the debris within two months…

When I finally saw that on the news, I was like…WOW! They finally got out! I could not even imagine how happy they were to be able to get out from a place far away from their families.

I wonder what have been going through their mind for all those time. They were unable to go out, they trapped into a limited space together 33 people, they could not enjoy every simple things that they usually able to see and hold and care. They could not see the sky, the sun, the moon, the stars…(sounded like a lame love songs), their families, their friends, and probably their pet… They probably keep on wondering whether they would be able to get out or have to meet tragic fate… Survive from the first disaster only to die slowly but sure together with their mates. But they tried to believe that good things will comes their way…

While outside, the Chilean President gave all out to rescue their miners. He did not care how much money that need to be spent to rescue those people. And he even cancelled all his trips just to ensure the rescue for all those miners going on smoothly. He managed to persuade the rescue team to get everything ready within two months as those miners begged to be rescued sooner.

I could imagine the pressure for the rescuer team… Naturally they want to make sure everything will be run smoothly. As this is the kind of ZERO MISTAKE situation. They could not tolerate any mistake and therefore in such a short time for them the task must be accomplished perfectly.

Funny for other people that time was so short but for others feels like forever. Imagine 24 hours for those miners…for them it feels like they have been there for ages. The same things go for their family. Will my husband or my son or my brother or my father would be able to get out from that place, alive? If yes, when will that be? What take them so long? Have they forgotten about us? Perhaps they just want to stalling the time hopefully we all just die in the waiting process?
But for the rescuer team 24 hours feel so short…, especially with the two months deadline. They would feel like there will be no resting time for them… They have to do their best to rescue all those people. Not just giving empty hope but really makes miracle. I have no idea how much prayers, sweat, thinking process and frustrated feeling that they have been through.

Anyway, I just want to say that rescuing process was like a miracle process for all of us as well… It’s like an impossible mission and yet they pull it through. With all prayers, countless efforts, support from their government and people from all over the world who offered help sincerely…those people were finally able to be together with their family.

Isn’t it nice when all people just united to do something better for helping other people with no hidden agenda or looking for propaganda? Why do we have to wait until something terrible happen then decide to forget all disagreement and work together?

Thank you for those Chilean people and the rescuer who shows us that miracle can happen if we work together despite our differences…

God bless you all…

News NPR

Shop till you drop



Indonesian loves to shop…

I have been reading so many stories about people from my country whenever they were traveling across the world.

Perhaps because we have this tradition to always bring souvenir gifts for our families, friends, and colleagues up to our neighbor.  I suppose bringing souvenir could be seen as:

A way to share our happiness that we have reached our destination and able to be back safely at home

Showing off that not only we are able to travel but still have spare money to buy gifts and shares them to so many people

Shopping on impulse… I like it, I buy it…or should I say I like it I buy them ALL!

Money overloaded… Confuse of having so much money so it would best to just spend them all…

Hahahaha… Kidding…

My friend told me about her parents who took a trip to Europe a couple of years ago with tour for elderly. That day, their bus was late entering Paris. Shops in Paris usually close around 5 PM. Their bus entered Paris approximately at 05.15 PM. The tour guide then called one of the biggest stores there and said like this, “Hey, I have with me a bus full with Indonesian people. Do you think you could open your store again just for them?” The manager agreed and the Indonesian people rushed in to the store and buy expensive items like buying candies. Yikes…

Other time, I was staying in this not so expensive hotel in Seoul with my friend. We decided to take city tour and the receptionist said the tour guide would pick us tomorrow. When they picked us, we were taken to this expensive hotel : LOTTE Hotel. We were amazed looking at that hotel and wondering who will join us exploring Seoul. It turn out, most of them are Indonesian people! And yes…they went to shop, shop and shop… Sighed… To entertain them, the sales person on this Ginseng’s shop even talks in Indonesian fluently! It seems Indonesian have been known for their thirsty for shopping even though with limited ability to speak foreign language. I do not know whether to feel excited that many foreign willing to take the trouble to speak in our language or simply embarrassed that most of us can’t speak even simple English!

I read on newspaper that big department stores around the world are preparing to have at least one staff who able to speak Indonesian. The goal is naturally to entertain these rich Indonesian customers so they can be persuaded to buy more and more…

The negative side from this most foreigners think that ALL Indonesian people are rich and easy to be lured to spend their money. I have heard one story from my friend when she visited other South East Asian country. She and her friends were taken to many souvenir shops but none of them spend their money to buy anything. The tour guide irritated by this then asked them what was the purpose of their coming to that country? When my friend answered that it was for relaxing the tour guide repeated their answer with expression of not believe them. My friend and her mates were eventually annoyed by that rude behavior and decided to not give any tip! My other friend once heard her tour guide saying, “Ah, you all Indonesian people are rich…”

If only they know that lots of us have to searching the internet to get cheap airplane’s fare, have to book a year before to have unbelievable cheap prize for airplane and hotel… Not all of us have a gold bar to be spent like crazy whenever we are out of town… Sighed…


Eat Pray Love

 To be honest EAT PRAY LOVE is not my favorite book and neither is the movie.

I think the book is too personal…it describes the journey of the writer to find pleasure, devotion and balance… And I could not feel her journey (well, actually I could feel it  except her journey in India) though I understand what driven her to her drastic decision.

But yeah I think once in a while when we already settle down and then looking at it we started to think…oh dear… Where did the years go? Have I done everything that I want to do in this life? Is this the life I have been dreaming of? Can I still have the chance to at least get to do one thing that I have always want to do? Did I sound ungrateful to God? Where is He? Does He near me? Does He understand things that going on with my mind and heart? Can I reach Him? Can I talk to Him? And so on…

So she went through nasty divorce with her husband, almost lost everything. But then she received advance payment for her coming books which inspired from her journey to Italy, India and Indonesia

I love the way she was telling her reader about Italy… There are so many good words to be quoted… Attraversiamo means let’s cross over, bel far niente means the art of doing nothing… And the food… Oh dear…, just to rewrite it here again already makes me hungry! Pizza, ice cream, spaghetti, pasta…gosh, I could kill to be there in Italy. KIDDING about the killing part. And then I arrived in India as part of the book and I just could not continue. I am sorry. But the searching of God for me it was too personal and I am tired reading her quest. So, I put down the book and did not read it for almost about a year. Then a few days ago I got news that the movie was about to be shown here in Indonesia…I tried to find that book under the pile of so many other books that awaits to be read. With lots of effort I was finally able to finish reading it just a few hours before I watched the movie. So it was still fresh on my mind when I watched the movie. In the end the readers finally arrive in Bali, Indonesia. Yay! A movie about Bali, Indonesia which hopefully explain to lots of people that Bali is an island located in a country called: Indonesia not the other way around. The way she describe Ketut Liyer and Wayan and Indonesian people…(almost everything she describe is the truth). Ehm, of course I love this part a lot because I am an Indonesian ^__^

Now, the movie (In My MOST Humble Opinion) failed to show to us the audience about what was going on inside the mind of the writer : Ms. Elizabeth Gilbert. Most of them just think of her as someone who has no idea about her role and purpose in this life. And therefore she seeks only for fun in Italy, seeks for renewing her relationship with God in India and last in Bali she searching for balance. Ketut said to her…do not forget while doing her yoga to smile with face, smile with mind even smile in your liver (actually he meant in your heart… I just realized about this later…). Nobody get a clear picture that she is a writer publishing articles for magazine. And her publisher gave her advance payment for her to live in those 3 countries and to be written into a book…
The movie failed to show that she almost broke after her divorce. Failed to give facts that it was to her nephew she sent her prayer Gurugita instead of the girl she befriended in the temple in India.

But anyway, I have to say I salute the writer to be able standing up on her feet again after her fall and the rocky journey to her destination. It is every writer’s dream to publish their book. To be best seller is a gift. To be offered by someone who wants to make a movie by your book is a grand bonus.

So, just watch the movie and read the book…and have your own conclusion ;)

Understanding the culture...


What is the boundary of being polite and a common practice?

Today, I was sitting alone enjoying my coffee at Starbuck. When I arrived I immediately sat at my fave place around the corner of the café. There is this one table and three empty sofas. I occupied one sofa and open my book and start reading. Then suddenly a woman just sat in front of me without saying anything. After a while her friend sat on the other sofa. From their language I learned that they are foreigner.

I was saying on my twitter that how rude these two women just sat on the sofas located near me without even saying anything… Like excuse themselves or something like that… What if I was waiting for a friend who would occupy that seat? Should I simply tell her to go away? 

My friend then said that it is a common practice outside Indonesia… So, it was only natural those foreigners assume that it is also applied in Indonesia

I was thinking like, really? But isn’t that a bit rude? Perhaps because I was sitting at the café which less formal compare to the restaurant? So, sitting at the café like Starbuck is more or less the same like you are having lunch at the food court where strangers usually just share the same table?

So, what is really the boundary then? I am asking because I still thinking they were impolite… Ehm, this is one of signs that I am getting old as I really easily irritated lately… Sighed…

Think positive part 1

In the name of being thankful and having this positive thinking, I therefore make this list:

The resource that I have is not being used as per my plan
When we have something that we have been waiting for ages surely we already made plans what to do with it. I have so many things on my mind with that resource. I have been making plans and hope to heaven and earth that I would be able to fulfill at least one of them using that resources. It turn outs, I have to use the available resource for something else…
I feel that it just gone away in front of my eyes and I could not do anything about it… I have to wipe all that I have wanted to do…

Being positive, I should just say out loud to myself…Thanks God I still have resource that I could use…


The healer fruit…
Ever since I has cyst in me lots of people advising me to seek alternative medication as well as taking prescription from my doctor. One of them is to consume Soursop as many people do get well and healed. Full with high hopes I started to consume Soursop daily following the instruction that has been widely spread on the internet and of course taking medicine from my doctor as well. You know what, when I went to the doctor yesterday to check whether the cyst is still there…it turn out nothing has changed. IT IS STILL THERE.
I was so disappointed and silently thinking that there is no point of me eating Soursop daily and put up with the yucky taste from the Soursop leaves. What do I get? I still have the cyst and this will mean I still have to spend more money to have it checked with doctor every six months. The cyst must not exceed more than 3 cm otherwise I need to be operated…AGAIN.

Being positive…I suddenly thought that…if I did not eat Soursop daily for the previous months…the cyst MIGHT get bigger than 3 cm. And that would mean I have to have it removed under surgery which will drain my money. Thanks God for the Soursop…


I think this is for now and will continue it again once I have other things to be thankful for. And I am sure there will be…

Confession of an internet addict

Oh dear, you just realized you have tonz of books that you have not read up to now… My goodness…you have promised your friend you will help with her project but you have not done anything and deadline is tomorrow! Then again, wait… you have your own project…arrrgh…you have not done it as well…!


After thinking hard (well not so hard) you realize what the problem was… You get distracted… Oh yes you do, admit it… You can not let yourself go from browsing internet…! Hah! Admit that as much as I did! I did? OF COURSE! 

Every morning I started to turn on my laptop and browsed like crazy… Mind you, when I was still working I did not have access to the internet… That’s why there always this hungry feeling to just keep on clicking and browsing and surfing… Yeah, yeah, excuses…, excuses… Totally being so irresponsible… But that’s me… And then not to mention updating status like crazy every second that I have a chance on Facebook, Multiply, Plurk, Twitter… oh…dear… It will never ends…

So, my advice is if you wish to continue whatever things you have in mind for ages ago and want to do it now….

DISCONNECT your internet connection…
Oh, relax… I am not talking about the whole year or as long as you live. That would be unwise as everything now related and connected and being done with, by and through the internet…

Once in a while turn off your handphone…
Yeah, you are not going to die or have a stroke for not using your gadget for let us say an hour perhaps… You know what, I went with my parents today to the hospital…and I turn off my Blackberry almost the whole day. And the result I am successfully in the middle of finishing read a book : EAT PRAY LOVE which has been abandoned in the pile of so many books for almost a year. Hmmm, at least I know what to do if I have to go to any boring places next time…

Please be reminded that your gadget…for example your handphone could also be used to access the internet…  All you have to do is hold that thing in your hand and before you realized you have spent the entire day update your status, commented your friend’s fiction, reading other people’s blog, playing game…or just browsing around.
Of course if you have online business then this advice probably can not be easily applied.

Say goodbye to your internet for a while
Oh, wait… I have said that, right? Anyway, do not try to start by checking your email… Okay, you have important mail… Really? Well, go on open it…, read it… After that…disconnected yourself from it… Otherwise…you will get hooked for about an hour or probably more…


Good luck from detox yourself from the world of internet ^___^

Reckless

After received my first salary the first thought that came into my mind was to take my parents and my sister to have nice lunch at this Chinese restaurant in our town. I was so happy that I finally have my own money so I told them to order whatever they want to eat. Well, within reasons of course… That time I did not have a credit card or anything that could save me if I run out of money.
Like I predicted they ordered meals that they always eats for years. But then, my Dad ordered something different. He asked the waitress to bring him three different kinds of drinks. Bewildered, I asked has he ever tasted all of them before? With smile on his face my Dad simply answered, “Nope… But then you are the one who is paying…so, I just want to try them all now…”
Hahahhaha… 


Well, yeah…sometimes we do not dare to try to dine in this new restaurant because well we do not know whether we will like whatever on the menu. Imagine if they are all a bit pricey for us… You do not want to risk to spend your money to something that will only makes you going to regret your decision. However, if it was on other people’s expenses…then we could just relax. We are probably going to try on that menu…with the bizarre kind of name or ingredients that we have never even heard before. I mean, you can eat like crazy and still hate the food but you do not need to pay for all of that. The burden to pay was on someone who has been nice enough to give you a treat.

In life, often we did something very irresponsible simply because we know that we are not going to be blamed for that. It would be someone else’s problem to take the fall and we can keep doing it again. No pressure attached because people would surely blame someone else… The burden of your mistakes were placed on someone else…probably your parents or your spouse or your subordinates.

Without knowing what are the impacts of our action often drive us to do unbelievable things. Thinking that it is okay and there was no pressure about it… So, if there is something wrong we will probably never know. And we will pass it on that kind of attitude to others…and not learning that there are consequences of our own actions. 

SOUL MATE

Oh well… people talked about soul mate… Finding their half in this world... 

I think why people so eager to find their soul mate because they believe that will be the ending of their tiring agonizing experience in trying to find something right.

For the fun example, maybe I can use the experience of me with my Gemini Blackberry. I have wanted this gadget for ages but unable to afford it as they are very expensive. Why do I so eager to have it? Because I think it has everything that I ever needed for a gadget.

Well, okay… I admit I was not a business woman or something who need to carry high tech gadget all day long. And yet, I still want it sooo much ^___^
I remember my very first soul mate was this Nokia sliding mode type 6220…if I was not wrong. When I finally have it in my hands I promised I would never change it with something else…until comes the day I could not use it anymore. The sliding Nokia has a built in camera and took pretty pictures! I took so many pictures like crazy and it did not wait too long before the handphone get damaged. Therefore I need to replace it with something else.

After that I have been changing for various handphones before finally got my first Blackberry. It is affordable and has every functions that I needed. I can check my emails even none of them really that important (LOL!). I could browsing through the net whenever wherever I was not with my laptop. I could chat all day with friends who live outside the city or even in abroad. As the addition, there are built in camera and of course music and video player but I rarely use the last two. So, now I finally have everything I need in one gadget…why I even want to have another one?

Before meeting my soul mate gadget, I always feel hungry to see every new gadget that being promoted on media. Oh I want that one! No, I want this one! But, that one has everything except the radio…and so on… Now, my searching is over… I have got what I need…

I suppose that is the funny example about why people so eager to find their soul mate.

They want to feel they are now completed.

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"I fell when I was walking on sidewalk..., " my friend told me about why she was walking as if she is in pain.

And you know what, the first question that came out from my mouth was, “Did someone see you?”

 Yeah, we really hate to stumble and just fall in front of so many people. It is too humiliating to just drop on your back on the sidewalk… Often we said here…the humiliation is unbearable instead of the pain. Very rare people would rush over to the person who just fall (unless they are elderly) and give a hand to help… Even if they do, they would probably have that smile like they were saying silently, “Oh, dear… Does it hurt? I betcha…”

I admit, I do find myself let out a laugh when I saw someone fall on the street… Mind you, I was meters away and just saw what happen from a café. That poor guy, stumble on something and within seconds he fell on the street. There was nobody there at that time, and he hurriedly got up… Checking if his pants were dirty or did he have any injuries for a second…then without glancing around he walked away as if nothing happened. Of course he has no idea that I was watching him and have a laugh.

Yeah, I do admit sometimes I enjoyed other people’s bad luck. Especially if I dislike that person or that person has hurt my feeling or have done something bad to me.
It was like a sick hobby of mine whenever I was in a very bad mood towards someone.

No wonder we sometimes prefer not to tell anyone about our misfortunes or problems as we will never know how other people react to our story. They could be feel sorry and do not know how to help. Others probably willing to help but do not want to look intrusive. The rest would just stay silent and have a good laugh inside and prepare to make that as their material for juicy gossip in the afternoon tea time.

It is important to us to act as if nothing happened and that we have a blast of time. We feel embarrassed if people know that we are actually having problem let alone need help. It is important for us that everybody know we are happy go lucky (thanks to so many social net workings that allowing us to update our happy status to the whole wide world) instead about our real situation. We also do not want everybody to think that we are such a whiny by sharing our problems. The good image about our life is so important that we are ready to pretend and wear mask to cover our sadness and pain. Up to the point where people does not recognize us for who really are. 

10.10.10

Since I have no idea what to write related to this date : 10.10.10, I took this writing prompt from Nablopomo 



Where were you and what were you doing ten years ago?

Yikes…

Although I have no idea what exactly I was doing on 10th October 2000…I am positively sure that I was still here in Jakarta, Indonesia and do whatever I used to do daily.

I looked at the calendar on my Blackberry and 10th October was on Tuesday, so obviously I was just doing my routines.

They are waking up in the morning… Taking times to have a shower with hot boiling water… Then, I ate my breakfast which still contains rice with scramble eggs. Yeah, I know…I am eating my breakfast with menu for lunch! No wonder I was having stomached not long after breakfast. And eventually I was late in catching up with the bus. But thanks God the traffic was not as crazy as nowadays. So, I was able to be in the office 5 minutes before my working time started. The rest, well you know… Working in the office until God’s knows when… I could do over time or the other way around. But my guess, it was the most lovable time as I always working and going home on time. Life was good at that time (sure, I was still below 30…)

That time I was just enjoying the first year of me being promoted to permanent staff. Yup, I was promoted around September 1999 after working my ass off for 2,5 years. I was making decision to myself that if I did not get the promotion then it is time to move on. Which in the end, I got the promotion and up to now I am still wondering was that a blessing or “blessing” in disguise? Hahahah…okay, enough said. There is no point in looking back and pondering what would have happened to me if I take that job? Or would it kills me if I just quit at that time and being unemployed for several months just to get another job? See? I could never stop thinking about it… heheheh

In the year 2000, I think (if I was not mistaken) that was the first time I took my parents on a trip to other city. I decided that as being thankful for the promotion I wanted to take them to visit my grandparent’s graves. Of course in the end, my Dad took part in financing the trip as well. But he and my Mom were really happy that it has crossed my mind to take them on a trip. We went to East Java using train and arrived in Malang, as the graveyards located there. No fancy hotel or restaurants as I could not afford it. But, we really were enjoying the time to stroll the city. I remembered that we complained about how the weather not being cool anymore.

Looking back now… my goodness… How times flew me by so fast and I still have not doing anything worthwhile…

Luckily I have not started online diary in the year 2000 otherwise I would be more depressed to read how fast years passing me by…and still stuck in the same place…

I LOVE / HATE YOU FULL!

It was always fun to read about two sides of people who attack on each other about someone famous who talked silly or has been acting dumb and become the mockery around the town by the press. Okay, I sound mean… No excuse for that… But, reading their words were really fun!

Few months ago, there was this news about someone…who is sort of public figures here… She did something silly and end up becoming the joke through the internet and other media… Her video was posted on Youtube and people naturally gave their comments after watching the video. Both parties from people who was mocking her with those who defends her : Equally Match.

The people who hates her saying things like
Oh My God! You are a total humiliation! You should be ashamed of yourself!
Can you be more stupid than this?
What on earth were you thinking?
Why nobody gave her some kind of training to avoid doing something stupid like that?
And so on…

But the people who defends her, all saying these :
WE LOVE YOU! You have done your best! Never mind those people who criticize you… They were meant nothing!

OH YOU ARE THE BEST! I love you to the fullest! YOU HAVE DONE EVERYTHING CORRECTLY…

DON’T LISTEN TO THOSE PEOPLE! They are just being jealous… You could do nothing wrong…! We support you all the way!


*Grinning, smiling widely then sighed*

I suppose when you totally hate any person you will not be able to see not even a slightest good thing from that person. You let your heart and head block every nicest thing this person ever committed with one mistake or bad deed that has been done. Even if the good deeds were carried out, you are positively sure that there must be some kind of hidden agenda or something. The good deeds were not sincere.

However, when we do like someone then we will be blinded and tolerance and easy to forgive every wrong doings that this person has done.
Oh, she is actually a lovely person… I am sure she never meant to…
You do not know him like I do… He is the kindest hearted person I have ever met. I am sure that is only a misunderstanding…



One thing for sure though, it is not a good thing when you are screaming :
I LOVE YOU FULL! Or I HATE YOU TOTALLY!
Hating too much or loving too much will only take away your ability to think logically towards this person. Your emotion will control your head and you will not gain anything from this.  And yesss, it makes you sound silly...from both ways...

Speech, please...

 When someone that I used to know entered the word of politic, people asked around like whether that person has the capability to be granted that kind of position. Most of them know as well I do that this person not really smart. HOWEVER, this person has amazing ability to speak in front of so many people. 

Okay, you would probably wonder…what is so special about that? So what if this person has ability to speak in front of people? Anybody can do that, right?

Errr, nope. I am including one of those people who suddenly feel sweat running down my spine if I have to face so many people and have to give a speech. I would probably end up babbling and therefore people going to get bored and I think it will make me more nervous than ever.

Once I have to give presentation in front of my class and as you can imagine I was totally nervous… Felt like I was taking a bath after that presentation… I was sweating all over the place, totally humiliating. I could not stand the stare of other students while they were listening to my presentation. Probably because I did not find the subject of my presentation interesting enough (mind you, it was a class’s project)… And therefore not prepare myself with supporting information to back up my presentation. Naturally, I feel insecure about it… Or perhaps, I just find it hard to speak in front of so many people. Let alone came up with something interesting to nail their attention to me… In positive ways, I meant.

Not so many people have that gift… I think according to my parents, Indonesia’s first president : late President Soekarno was one of those who able capturing his audience with his speech. Amazingly, he just spoke all of that straight from his heart and mind. My parents said they hardly ever seen him bringing notes to be read while he gave out his speech to his nation. He spoke with integrity and full of conviction with what he has delivered to the public. He believed that what he was planning and fulfill and soon accomplished would be good for his nation. And people listening his speech with awe.

While the person that I have mentioned above…, may not be so clever… But have that ability to just speak in front of so many people without even a slightest hesitation on the face. You know the kind of person who speaks blah, blah, blah, from north to south but until they finished their speech…you still don’t get it but too tired to ask for confirmation? Well, but the courage to simply speak up, attract audience to pay attention, sticking up with your opinion, believe with your opinion…is really rare… At least for me, I admit that.

I think if one day I have to give out speech in front of so many people…maybe I will drug myself first… Hahahah… KIDDING! Or just simply take out my glasses so I do not have to see those faces clearly… No, no, no… That’s just another stupid ways… Anyone care to help? J

Being nice is to be taken for granted?

As usual twice a month, my parents need to go to the hospital for their medical check ups. On that glorious day, we would have to spend the entire day waiting for doctors and medical prescriptions at the pharmacy. My parents could go to more than just one doctor on that day. And after a while, my cousin who has been helping us to take care of my parents already able to memorize the habits of those doctors along with the nurses who act as assistants.

“This one is obnoxious and so does his nurses. He never arrive early, always comes late and his nurses do not even bother if there is any of those patients drop dead in front of them due to exhausted from the long wait..., “ she explained to me while throw her deepest loathing look to the doctor who walk calmly entering his practice room passing of all his old patients sitting looking dead tried.


“I once begged the nurse to let your Mom go in first as she was in bad shape at that time…but the nurse wouldn’t let me… They said, all patients have to enter consecutively following their appointment number. “If we allowed one patient to be called first while there were others before her…everyone would ask for the same treatment…”

While with the other doctor, the nurse always put elderly first on the line no matter what appointment number they got. She seems understand that while young people could die out of boredom for the long wait, elderly would probably die because have a stroke for sitting too long on the chair due to exhaustion.

So, if we have to visit two doctors at once…we usually goes to see the stuck up doctors first rather than the nicer one. Why? Well, naturally because we know the nice nurse will ease up with us and therefore we decided that it is okay to make the appointment through her become second priority. The first we have to see is this obnoxious doctor as even we have early appointment number, they would put us at the very last number if we are late to the appointment.

Of course it got me thinking that again we take people for granted because they are nice to us.
The above appointment sort of like you has to see two teachers. This one is nice and forgiving while the other is vicious and definitely not so forgiving. Which one you are going to choose first if they both have the same schedule for you to see them? Definitely the one who is vicious as you would not want to mess with that one and destroy your entire life. As for the nice one, you are positively sure that you will be forgiven no matter what your excuse will be. Then you are taking that nice person for granted, right?

Now I can understand a tiny bit why oh why people choose to be scary for others because for several reasons:

Try to take a look at your nasty colleague in the office. The one who always barks whenever you need their assistance… He or she probably is the kind of people who hard to concentrate and therefore avoid any kind of disturbance. If they being nice and helpful, people will just come and go whenever they please to ask for help and finally becoming nuisance. If you have a colleague who seems ready to break everyone’s neck, would you still want to ask for their assistance? You do not even want to be near them, not unless is a matter of life and death.

Nice people tend to be forgotten…by (of course) those who take advantages of their kindness…
How often we heard this sentence, “Oh, I am sorry I totally forgot about my promise to you… You would not mind, would you? You forgive, do you? Okay, everything is fine then…”
*SLAPPING MODE IS ON SILENTLY*


So, yeah…it is hard to be nice to other people… And it is hard to be firm but not fierce and therefore people not taking you for granted. Additionally, it is totally difficult to say NO and still smiling broadly with that angelic look stamped on our face… Or does it really important for us to be known as nice person but our heart feel like being stabbed by dozens of knives?

Who said being nice is easy? :D